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prepping to care for yourself

One of the things I completely didn’t think about while pregnant is the extreme change that MY body was going to go through when I gave birth. I was more then ready, willing, able, and capable to care for a newborn baby – but what about me. One of the hardest things I discovered post baby is that I really needed someone to take care of ME too. Thankfully I had a wonderful husband, mother and tons of other friends and family to help. I was stubborn though, I tried to do too much, too soon. I wanted to be the best mom possible (who doesn’t?!) and didn’t want to need someone, but I quickly discovered that I did. I have a few friends who are expecting babies soon so I want them and all soon-to-be moms realize that the phrase “it takes a village” is very true, and that you should trust in your village! Here are a bunch of random things that I learned from experience, hope they are helpful!

What to bring to the hospital (there are plenty of amazing lists and I won’t begin to attempt to copy but here are a few things I think are most important):

  • Slippers/warm fuzzy socks/flip flops – hospital floors = yuck! and cold!
  • Notebook and pen (or be prepared with an app on your phone to use to keep track of everything like feedings and diapers and medication for yourself, there are a lot of things that are based on a schedule and it’s very hard to keep track of!)
  • An old but big and fluffy towel from home; your own shampoo & conditioner & bodywash – the hospital grade is usually terrible (Thanks Emily)
  • Your own pillow!!! (bright/patterned pillow case so they don’t try to clean it and it will be lost forever)  I brought an airplane/neck pillow too because you’re doing a lot of upright sitting during labor and recovery. I also brought the boppy pillow which I found very helpful for breastfeeding but also for tentative/nervous guests (and Dads!) visiting you and holding the baby for the first time.  (Thanks Emily)
  • You don’t necessarily need to bring this with you but perhaps prepare a pile of your favorite maternity clothes for you to wear the first few days post partum. If you have a c-section someone can bring them into you – since you are there for 3-4 days after a c-section you will have more visitors and more photos taken in the hospital – call me vain but I wanted to be in normal clothes asap. I understand if you are only in the hospital for 2 days then you don’t need it and can wear the hospital gown, but by day 3 or 4 I wanted to appear somewhat normal.

What to buy from the drugstore so you don’t have to send your husband out searching to CVS at midnight after you get home from the hospital and there isn’t a plethora of items at your disposal (didn’t happen to me, but did happen to my poor brother, he is still traumatized I think).

  • PADS. Big, huge, large, with wings. And smaller thinner ones and then panty liners too. It goes on for weeks. Literally. Yuck.
  • Dermoblast*
  • Tucks pads*
  • Witch hazel*
  • Colace – it’s a stool softener – gross but so needed – you can take before delivery too to get your body ready
  • Nursing Pads**
  • Lanolin – nipple cream**

*Due to my c-section I didnt really need to use these things and therefore can’t explain too much, but they are to help if there is tearing/irritation “down there” – eek. If you don’t have a friend to talk to about it – ask me! Or ask a nurse after delivery – they are there to help!!

**If you plan to breastfeed you’ll want these things to help your body adjust.

Things to steal/take from the hospital

  • Everything that isn’t tied down – as stated above – you/your insurance paid for everything so TAKE it. diapers, wipes, formula, pads, swaddle blankets, hats, disposable underwear, bring an extra bag for it all!
  • You will also get a spray bottle thing from the hospital – to spray instead of wipe! oh yeah I went there – ask for two if you have two bathrooms!

Other things to buy for you:

  • at least one size up (two if you know you are going to have a c-section) yoga pants from old navy – you will still look / feel pregnant in the stomach area for a few weeks – accept it, wear the yoga pants and move on
  • at least one size up (two if you know you are going to have a c-section) (just make sure they are big and loose and comfortable!) – hanes cotton underwear – go to Target and buy a 10 pack – it’s all you will want to wear for a few weeks – then you will want to toss them!

With all that said – try to remember that you really have been through a traumatic experience. If it is an eight hour or 48 hour experience your body deserves a rest. Take the first two weeks and seriously recover. Make sure you have someone to help you pretty much 24/7. Your husband, your mother, sister, friend – ask for help and ask now. Two full weeks. If you do that – you will feel SO much better. Sleep. Eat a lot and eat whatever you want. (Speaking of eating – if people say that they want to bring you food, say thank you and request a specific day so that people don’t bring it all at once!! We had so much food for the first week, then week two we had nothing!) I did NOT do this. When my husband went back to work at day 9 I thought I could and wanted to do it on my own. I regret it. I never felt too terribly overwhelmed because many people stopped by often (my mom especially) but looking back I wish I had relaxed and let people help me. I had many people who wanted to be there for me but I was being too prideful. Let it go. You just had a baby. You brought life into this world (go YOU!) – now give yourself some time to rest and recover so you can be the best mom to your beautiful baby.

Do you have anything to add?

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spring time engagement

It’s just about 2 years ago right now that we took our engagement pictures. We had already been engaged for almost a year and had 8 months to go. Our amazing photographers, Mike & Kate of MKDPhotography, took these on the water right where we were living at the time. Though it looks like a sunny day – the wind was a blowing and the skies were kinda grey, typical spring in Boston – you never know what you’re gonna get.

source of all photos is MKDPhotography

And my comments from the above photos:

1) This is the perfect “parent” engagement photo – it’s a great straight forward shot of us. MKD did a great job of catching a few “typical” shots among their other amaaazing photos!

2) We literally climbed through some ridiculous things to get to this location but they saw the “wheat grass” and had a vision and it turned out amazing! Love it!

3) Love the angle of this one – love the foot lift, love the location – I used to do sprints up and down that dock. This was a better reason to be there!

4) This is one of my favorite photos of me ever taken. Love it.

5) Love the way he is looking at me.

6) Check out Greg’s face. I also love it when he looks at me like that! I think his exact words after this photo were “what the heck are you doing?”

PS – I got my hair colored the day before and styled it for like an hour and a half. I also had my make up done at a department store that morning – so worth it!

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lyric love

As is clearly shown by my blog title, I love song lyrics. Moments Pass Slow is a line of the chorus of our song: My Wish by Rascal Flatts. We danced to this song as our first dance as husband and wife. It has been our song since about a month into dating. We had just had dinner with my family for my sister’s birthday and we were driving toward the highway to our two separate homes in our two separate cars when my cell phone rang and it was Greg. He told me to pull over into the gas station before getting on the highway. When we got there he jumped out of his car and ran over to mine to hand me a CD – the (then) new Rascal Flatts CD, Me and My Gang. He said “song number 5, just listen to it, it’s amazing.” And I did, and I giggled and smiled and maybe got a little weepy – but since then it’s been our song. (cheeeeeesey!)

My Wish – Rascal Flatts

if it’s cold outside,
show the world the warmth of your smile

My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to,
your dreams stay big, your worries stay small,
You never need to carry more than you can hold,
and while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too,
Yeah, this, is my wish.

I hope you always forgive, and you never regret,
and you help somebody every chance you get,

while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too


I would never change what song we had our first dance to, but some other songs that have come out recently would be amazing first dance songs for some other happy and in love bride and groom. Here are some of my favorite lyrics from two of my new favorite songs:

~~~~~~~~~

Marry Me – Train

Forever can never be long enough for me
To feel like I’ve had long enough with you
Forget the world now we won’t let them see
But there’s one thing left to do

Together can never be close enough for me
To feel like I am close enough to you
You wear white and I’ll wear out the words I love
And you’re beautiful
Now that the wait is over
And love and has finally shown her my way
Marry me
Today and every day

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Without You – Keith Urban

I’ve loved you since the very first day
When I caught you looking my way
A smile and just knew it.

And people that I barely knew, love me ‘cos I’m part of you

Man I start to figure
How two souls can be, miles from one another
But still you and me, have somehow found each other.

Without you I’d survive, but I’d have to have a notion
That I could live this life, just going through the motions

This life, this love that you and I have been building up so high
It’s never gonna touch the sky, without you.

~~~~~~~~~

What was your first dance song with your husband? Or what is your dream song if you haven’t had your wedding yet?

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eve

If our baby was a girl her middle name would have been Eve, but alas, it’s a boy and Evan just isn’t as special as Eve. Christmas Eve morning, December 24, 2010, is a morning I will never forget …

6:00 pm, December 23rd, 2010

Colleen: But what if I am? I mean I don’t feel like I am but I totally could be, and what if I drink this weekend and I hurt the baby? I need to know before going to parties this weekend.

Greg: Just take the test now!

Colleen: Noo!! You have to take it in the MORNING, or it doesn’t WORK! duh!!!!

Greg: Oh, oh. Umm, okay, tomorrow morning then, you’re taking a pregnancy test tomorrow morning!!!

4:45 am, December 24th, 2010

Colleen: [to myself, since, umm it was 4:45 in the morning] Why am I wide awake? I wonder if I am. I really don’t think I am. But man do my boobs hurt. But your  boobs hurt with your period sometimes too. I know but maybe this is different. Maybe I really am. Oh man why am I wide awake at 4:45 am. Maybe I should just go take it now. I’ll just take it and if it’s negative it’s negative – or maybe I’ll just wait to wake Greg up. Or maybe I could do something cute and like put a bun in the oven and make him go look in the oven …. hmm we don’t have any buns that won’t work … okay I can’t wait anymore I am going to go do this.

Bathroom – stick – you know the drill …

Colleen: [to myself again, since, it’s only about 4:52 am at this point] Okay 3 minutes, deep breath, no big deal either way. We haven’t been trying too long. It’s not a big deal either way. Wouldn’t it be cool if we were actually … OMG … that’s a plus sign!  OMG OMG OMG. AHHHH.

Run into bedroom and jump on the bed.

Colleen: [outloud this time, quite loudly] Greg! Greg! I’m pregnant! We’re having a baaaaby!!!! I’m pregnant!!!

Greg: [rolls over to look at the clock, very very confused] It’s 4:53 in the morning.

Colleen: I took a test — IT WAS POSITIVE! Like INSTANTLY. We’re pregnant. We’re having a BABYYYY!!

Greg: [a little more alert] Oh my gosh, are you serious? For real? Wait why are you up at 4:53 in the morning? You took the test? And it was positive? Which test? How many did you take? Wait really? let me see it!! We’re having a BABY!!!!

annnnnnnd scene!

I proceeded to run over and grab the baby books, as if they would suddenly say “yes, you ARE indeed pregnant!”  We read them for about an hour, while giggling, laughing, omg-ing and just general happiness. The one thing we were able to figure out (with a little iPhone assistance) that we were having a late August baby!  Holy moly, hot summer. We then decided that we needed to go back to sleep, but that lasted only about an hour and we were once again wide awake at 7am. I took another test then, just to be sure, and yup, it wasn’t a joke!

Here’s a shot of me at Greg’s family Christmas Eve party later that night … at this point only our parents and siblings knew … see that wine glass in my hand there, don’t worry it was all a ruse! Do you think I had the glow then?

(Greg’s cousin is a budding photog, how lucky are we?)

 

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{{2010 in weddings}}

We go to a lot of weddings.

January 2 – Our own wedding of course!!

March 27 – Emilia & Chris in New Orleans!

May 21 – Ron & Heidi in Virginia

June 19 – Sara & Rob in Chicago!

September 4 – Melissa & Chris in Boston

(This one was at the same venue as our wedding – they treated us like the king and queen of the prom!)

September 25 – Maria & Steve in Milton, MA

*I was a bridesmaid in this one!!

We also had to say no to two other weddings this year! We love our friends but are pretty excited that 2011 only has one wedding scheduled right now!!

One left to go to on October 30th of these two fabulous people:

Can’t wait!

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{{our google search story}}

Following along with the latest trend on the good old world wide web I wasted spent some time tonight writing up our story …

I also tricked Greg into thinking that it just happened to be ‘our story’ – he only believed me for about 20 seconds but it was a fun 20 seconds none-the-less.

What’s your story?

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